As a future parent to my unborn child, this is one of my concerns.  Parenting styles may have evolved, but the objective has stayed the same.  Parents just want to give their child the best.  Now, the difference is what parents thinks is the best.

Today, parenting and child rearing has become “scientific”. Parents turn to research, self-help books, and ofcourse, google.  After following the steps, some parents end up becoming pushover parents,  Many times, parents end up bringing up their difficult-to-manage child for consultation saying that they have tried everything from reasoning with the child, even spanking, or punishing or threatening but still, nothing changed.

So, what is a pushover parent?  It is best to just see the possible signs.

1. Fails to set specific limits

You can be one if you are not able to set rules even if your child’s behavior are already harming others.

2.  Almost always submits to their kids’ decisions

You are the parent, and until they are still under age, you still have to make their decisions for them as much as possible.

3.  Has feelings of helplessness or intimidation

If you feel overwhelmed in the face of your child’s behavior, then be on guard.

4.  Showers the child with material things to compensate for the guilty feelings

Now, this may not sound bad,really.  Whose parent doesn’t want to give their kids all the things they didn’t have when they were young?  But too much is too much, no matter what justification is laid.

5.  Competes with your spouse over the child’s affections

That’s why there are two parents, well, ideally.  If you’re raising your child with your partner and you two have spats on who the children run to when they need something, then it’s time to talk.  But if you’re a single parent, it’s a different story but has similarities.