Yesterday my husband was entertaining some of his friends in my house.  They’re normally rowdy but, like women, the conversation always turns into a talk about women.   In their case, the conversation about women started with Bob telling the others about this girl that he met just last week.

Now listen to how mean this is:  He says the girl was all that smart but she’s good in bed and that he’ll continue seeing her because of that.  Now I found that to be a nasty thing to say as it would seem that he’s just keeping her to satisfy his carnal needs.  So I said, “What makes you think you’re good in bed?”

Now this question has plagued me for some time.  I have often wondered what the criteria were for good sex for men.  Does she have to be flexible? Acrobatic? Servile?

Bob answered, “Of course I am.  She seemed satisfied enough.”  Satisfied enough…. What exactly does that mean?

This got me thinking.  I concluded that for me sex is like sales.  Let me explain the 5 factors in sales in relation to sex.

1. Sales Talk.  The first part in making a sale is the sales talk.  The seller has to condition the mind of the buyer by having conversation and building rapport.  Good conversation always preps up a girl.  A man who knows how to listen and to talk turns women on, more so, if they have a sense of humor.  So having good conversation is preparing the girl for the sales pitch – sex.
2. Demo.  Now that the customer is somewhat open to the product, you perform a demonstration of the product so that the customer will get an idea or feel of the product.  I consider foreplay the demonstration part of sex.  Granted it is not the full product, but foreplay will give them the proper idea if they’ll go ahead or not.  For example, if they guy is a sloppy kisser for sure the girl won’t continue. If foreplay is bad, the assumption is going all the way won’t be worth it. You have to understand foreplay is very important.  Some guys just want to make a sale without any demo.  Just won’t work and even if it does for sure the girl won’t have a blast.
3. Sale.  If everything has gone well, from the sales talk to the demo, then for sure the buyer will purchase the product.  Given the good conversation and the fantastic foreplay then the girl is ready to go.  The same way that the guys want to be paid attention to, it is important to note that girls need far more attention than the guy.  The product has to attend to her needs and her needs usually take longer to satisfy.  The product also has to be able to last long.  A product whose battery gets easily expended usually is not satisfactory for the female client.
4. After sales service.  This is a very important facet of the product.  Normally some people after making the sale will just leave the customer with the product and that’s it.  After sales service increases the value of the product.  For a girl, after sales would be a little bit more conversation and a bit of cuddling.  When a guy gets up and goes and smokes a cigarette without a word sucks.
5. Follow up.  Follow up is usually under after sales service and is no longer a factor in being good in bed but it would be nice if the guys follow up.  It will make him good in bed as well as just plain nice and good.

Ok that’s my list.  It’s not the recipe to have a relationship but it will definitely give a girl a nice time at the same time not make her feel that she’s nothing more than an object to satisfy Bob’s needs.   For sure, if these steps are followed an imprint of the guy being good in bed will stay forever and if she’s a kiss and teller she may just pass it around and advertising by word of mouth can be provided.

You know…. the girl’s only 15 years old and they are making a big issue over a picture taken of Miley by renown photographer Annie Leibovitz.

Yes it’s a bit provocative but her father was there and they most probably know what they’re doing…. there are jsut a lot of malicious people and it’s just too much pressure for a girl that age….

Makes me wonder if ti were really wise to allow your child to enter showbiz.

I have to say one of the most beautiful things in the world to see on someone is a smile.

Smiles say a lot to other people. It may mean ok, I am content, or I am fine or you’re nice or I like you. With the numerous meanings that a smile can give it can be misunderstood but definitely, no matter what it means, it will remain beautiful and make an imprint into somebody’s mind.

The smile is so great that people have painted smiles, wrote poetry about smiles and composed songs about smiles. It is truly a wonderful thing. Plus it can make people’s day. The smile that I see on my husband’s face every morning helps me get through the day no matter how tough it may be… and so I return that smile back to him as he leaves for work to help him go through the day. At the end of the day, when he comes home I give him another one just to lift his weariness and to welcome him home. Yes, a smile can do wonders…

Let me share with you then a whole lot of beautiful smiles which hopefully can help you make your day. You don’t have to vote just look at how nice they are… these smiles have made me feel good… I hope it makes you feel good too….

Smiles

You know what’s nice with having a successfully planned romantic evening with your loved one is that it usually carries over until the next day.

The next day is definitely as divine as the evening prior.

You know, a lot of people say that when the kids arrive the romance dies…. Do you agree?  I think this is a pessimistic view on things…..

I believe it’s just a matter of making time for it…. maybe I’m naive or in denial but I refuse to believe that a blessing like a child could destroy something like romance….

Oh well, for sure, I will go out of my way to keep the music playing….

Chicken_paella

I wanted to do something special for my husband today. So what I did was I cooked something different. I tried to make Spanish Paella for him since we love Spanish food.

I truly surprised myself seeing the end result. I believe it was the best meal I’ve ever prepared. What’s nice about paella is it is in itself a full meal, with the rice, the chicken, chorizo and whatever it is that you want to add to the dish.

I got the idea of cooking something different while I was browsing through online competition sites. Somehow it

inspired me to cook something for him and since they say the best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, that’s exactly what I did.

I know that he’ll love me whether or not I cooked well but I think I just made him love me more. We had a great time. I set up the ambiance. Put candles everywhere and rose petals all over the floor. Yes this maybe too much or too dramatic but I just wanted to show him how much I appreciate him. I swear, the dessert (giggle…) was well worth all the trouble I had to take to cook this fantastic meal…